Third time's a charm

Finally, ten months after my matchmaker started her search for my matches, I was a definite yes to the third official match from my matchmaker, which was Derek.

To be clear, ten months is an oddity. My matchmaker actually reached out to me within three weeks of starting her search about a potential match. The guy was moving from Los Angeles to Utah though, so she needed to know if I was ok with the possibility of dating someone who was only going to be in LA sometimes.

He looked great on paper. As in, our values aligned and that gave me the vote of confidence that my matchmaker understood me well enough from our one hour chat. However, I did need to be candid with her about the fact that I wasn't very attracted to the guy and that the idea of dating felt like a drag.

With that, we decided it'd be best for me to take a deeper look at that. The package I bought included dating coaching and I of course jumped on that so I could have someone looking at my blind spots with me.

In two sessions, the coach and I uncovered that I needed some time to figure out an on again off again relationship I was having, and see how I'd respond to an actual match from my matchmaker.

Now two months from when my matchmaker started, I had gotten an official match from her and the profile was in my words, 'Fine.' Haha. In her kind way, my matchmaker could understand hesitancy with the first match because the process is new.

At this point, a 30-day hold to the services was offered and so, I took that winter season in December and January to chill from all this and enjoy the holidays with my family.

When my matchmaker checked in after the new year buzz settled, I asked for a longer hold and her manager gave the ok for three months.

Those three months were key. During that time, I was so fortunate to get to experience healing modalities my friend suggested. I traveled to Cape Town, South Africa for these and that was also healing because I got to be with friends and in a new place.

I even left my job as a pharmacist during that time to focus and go all in to coach others and explore training as an energy healer.

When my matchmaker and I caught up in April, I had also finally ended it with the on again off again guy. I was a different person talking to my matchmaker at that point, and I had the courage to be truly authentic with her.

I could tell her who I knew myself to be and about the traits in a man that I knew would be compatible with me. This really helped my matchmaker have a better picture of potential matches.

Soon after, we had a call and she shared many potential matches to even better understand what I was looking for. Then the email came from her with my second official match.

It was a good one, but I wasn't attracted to him. I understood that instant attraction isn't the only tell, so something else was surfacing for clarity.

I let my matchmaker know that I preferred a younger energy because this match was 41 and I intuited that he had an old soul, which is more like me. I'd like my man to be the complement to my old soul type of energy.

I tried to get my matchmaker to cancel my knee-jerk response agreement to meet this guy, but she encouraged me to stay open to the process. So then I learned a lesson in accountability and responsibility and I communicated what is true for me and cancelled the virtual date with the guy.

About a month later, the email with Derek's bio landed in my inbox. Unlike the times before, I felt a resonance and this was an easy yes to my matchmaker. The rest is history! Stay tuned. 😉