Is he really the one?

I always heard that it only takes one, and I did not expect how leaning into Derek being the one would feel. 😧 In the past, I kept choosing all the bad ones and ones that would definitely not work out. There's been too many breakups in my dating history 😮‍💨 I see now that I did this subconsciously to keep myself safe since I was familiar with how to take care of myself from a broken relationship.

This is known as failing first. As if I could know exactly how a relationship would turn out before it is given a chance to unfold. This is also confirmation bias, and I was not about to repeat that unhealthy behavior.

About a month into dating, Derek had already been clear with me that he was only dating me. At the time, I couldn't return the sentiment because I was learning about my value as a potential partner. And of course, he was fully aware that I hired the matchmaker.

My matchmaker encouraged me to consider another match, but I felt unsure. The me before matchmaking would've also only dated one person at a time, because I thought that's the way dating should be. AND I thought that I couldn't even handle more than one person at a time.

When my matchmaker's email with the next match showed up in my inbox, I didn't reply for several days. One, because I was on vacation with my sister and cousin in a beautiful Seattle heatwave. And two, because I needed some time to really be honest.

So I had a session with my dating coach to help. Our session brought to light how much I was enjoying Derek and our relationship. She also made the point that my feelings about this match are helping me be even more clear about going all in with Derek.

What happened next is that my upcoming date with Derek knocked me out of the water. We still talk about how epic the date was. 🤩 He bought tickets to one of my favorite EDM artists (shoutout to Odesza's The Last Goodbye show), and planned for us to watch the Perseid meteor shower at Vasquez Rocks. Our first photo together is the featured image to this post. 🥰

I finally took the chance to let a healthy love in and I get to keep enjoying the fruits of that leap. I'm thankful I did the scary thing. It required more trust and faith than I'd had before, but it means that today I have even more faith and trust in good things.